Part-Time Working Mummy Fest

Friday I got up for work and mom said she was dropping Scarlett at Nursery. So we bundled her in the car and set off. i got a McDonald’s breakfast to tide me over for the busy day ahead.

My mom picked me up at 1pm as I had Scarlett’s Nursery consultation for her yearly review. She is smashing life. She’s so bright and is on par, and slightly above for her milestones. This includes emotional, social, developmental and educational. Basically everything. She’s such a super star!!!

I had to pick up my night guard retainer from the dentist so we swung by then I grabbed lunch from the shop next door and headed back to work. I managed to do all this within my 1 hour lunch break. Skills!

My mom picked me up from work at 5 like usual. We went home. I bathed Scarlett and got her ready for bed. I threw some bits in a bag for her and then put some bits in my bag for me. We went to my nan’s house as she was sleeping over there. We stayed until my nan got in at 7ish then we set off.

We drove for an hour then stopped at services for a wee and dinner then we carried on. We arrived at about 10. We parked up then went to our room. It wasn’t bad. It was clean and decently sized. We shared a drink and watched Emmerdale in bed then we went to sleep.

Saturday we got up at about 8. I had a shower then we checked out and headed for breakfast. We found a Wetherspoons so we ate there. I phoned my nan to check on Scarlett. She said she went to bed at 8 and woke up at 7:30am. She’s fine. She’s had her bottle and some breakfast. I knew she’d be fine. She loves her Nana.

After we ate we walked to the Crowne Plaza Hotel in the city centre for the Part-Time Working Mummy show that started at 10:30am.

It was fab. Rachaele (part-time working mummy) is just brilliant. She’s so down to earth and the things she’s been through, just horrendous. But you wouldn’t know it because she’s so kind and funny and real. We picked up our free cupcakes (I got one for Scarlett too) and then we browsed the merchandise stalls. I got a PTWM t-shirt, wrist band and badge. I won some earrings on the tombola. My mom got a plaque, a wrist band and a badge too.

We got back to the car at 1:45pm and headed off for Home. We stopped for food about half hour away from home and finally got back at 4:30pm. I had proper missed Scarlett and I totally feel like my weekend with her will feel so short. But it’s only one time and she had a blast with my grandparents. She loves them.

We had a quick cup of tea then we headed home. I bathed her and got her ready for bed. She went to bed at 7:15 as she was shattered. I climbed into bed myself and watched a film. I watched Miss Peregine’s Home for Peculiar Children. It was weird but good.

Today Scarlett woke up at like 6:30. But she was just singing and chatting to herself so I left her. She eventually got up properly at 7:45. She had a bottle and then some breakfast whilst we watched Postman Pat the movie. She likes Postman Pat. After that finished I took her up at 10 for a nap. She slept till 12ish. In that 2 hours I laid in bed watching Doctor Stranger. Had wanted to see it for ages.

We got dressed and then we headed to my Nan’s house for dinner. She was cooking a Sunday roast.

We ate. Scarlett played a bit. I washed up and my Grandad dried up. Like normal. Then we headed home. Scarlett watched some teletubbies then I took her up for an afternoon nap. Wasn’t sure if she’d go down or not. It was 3ish. She did but it took her ages to drop off. I think I fell asleep as I was laid on my bed playing a game on my phone, listening to her singing etc. Next thing I know it’s almost 5 and she’s shouting lol

She had some supper. Skips, a cake and some fruit. We had a bath together at 7 then my mom dressed her whilst I washed my hair and got out. She went to bed at 7:45 so later than usual but only by 45 minutes. She didn’t take long to get to sleep. I had some supper with my mom then I went up to bed. I watched Captain America 3. It felt familiar in parts, like I’d seen bits before.

I’m now laid in bed. I’ve had a headache all day. I took paracetamol this morning and then ibuprofen this evening. Nothing is helping. Hopefully it goes after a good nights sleep.

TTFN x

Ps. Scarlett’s milk and cookies photoshoot pictures came back. I’ve downloaded them. I’m ready to post them online in December. So excited for Christmas!!

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Traffic, freezing temps and possibilities

Monday my mom got stuck at work because her car was frozen. The temperature overnight had dropped to -1. She had to defrost her car then she got stuck in traffic picking me up from home. She didn’t get to me until 7:50 then we had to drive to my work which can be done in about 10 minutes on a good day. We hit traffic between Home and Work. I was 10 minutes late to work. My manager had a massive go at me (even tho I had previously forewarned this might happen on days when my mom works the night and had asked above her to someone higher if it was possible to have some leeway of up to 15 minutes late, being made up during lunch which was Okay-ed). I informed of all this and all I got was “fix it or leave”. Wonderful support for a lone parent working full time. The only reason I rely on my mom for a lift is due to the bus company changing the bus timetable for the only bus that gets me to work. It use to pick me up from town at 7:35 and I’d get to work at 7:50 (perfectly adequate). But a few weeks before I returned from maternity they changed it to 7:55 pick up getting me at work for 8:10. I asked 13 months ago if I could make up the 10 minutes in my lunch and was told a flat No. So my alternative has been getting a lift. But my mom works night shifts. 9:30pm till 7:30am. I start work at 8. It is what it is.

I was so angry so I’m glad I spent my morning in training meetings. Kept me occupied.

I’ve been job hunting since January. So you can imagine my frustration as each passing month goes by. I’ve had only 3 interviews in that time. I’ve actually got 2 this week. One is a telephone interview for a role within my company but a different department and based in a different city. Then I have a proper interview in the next town during my lunch break on Thursday!

Tuesday my mom tried to call me to say she was stuck at work and could I ask my Grandad to take me to work. But I always have my phone on Do Not Disturb until I turn it off. So she ended up calling my nan who had just picked Scarlett up. My Grandad said he’d pick me up. So he did, at 7:45 and I managed to get to work for 7:58.

It was my remaining team member’s last day today. We were a team of 3 and 1 manager. Now it’s just me from tomorrow onwards. Fun times!

Scarlett has had her first official day in the new room downstairs at nursery. Now she’s in the 2-4 years room. She loved it apparently. She came back from Nursery speaking so clearly already. She now says more rather than Muh lol

My nan called me when I was dishing up my dinner. I called her back whilst eating and she said she was trying to connect her laptop to her new WiFi box but couldn’t remember how. I can’t explain things I can’t see so I had her video call me on her phone and show me her screen. It didn’t take us long to connect it lol

I’m in bed watching Lucifer. I’m going to try and get an early night because I’m going to be busy tomorrow. I did a lot of importing tasks today and they’ll need activating and generating tomorrow. It’ll be Day 1 of being the lone member. Wish me luck!

TTFN x

Rail replacement buses

Friday wasn’t too bad at work. I got a lot done but I didn’t feel that productive. I just got by, mostly. Scarlett had a bath and went to bed like normal.

Saturday she got up at 7:45. I gave her a bottle and then we got dressed. We got picked up at 8:15 for Gravity Tots. Scarlett didn’t quite get the hang of jumping. She’s used to jumping off hard floors. It was too bouncy for her. She did enjoy herself. We ran around and played with balls and soft squares you can chuck. We managed half hour then we left to have a snack. She was freezing. They had the AC on and I’m assuming it’s so people don’t overheat as bouncing is exercise and people will get hot and sweaty. But she’s only little. Her lips went blue. I gave her a banana and some water then we got our shoes on.

We got picked up and we headed to McDonald’s for breakfast. Scarlett had pancakes and sausage. I had my usual breakfast wrap. She ate lots then went down for a nap. She slept for like 3 hours.

When she woke up we headed to Camberley. We had planned to go to Woking but it turned out there was rail works going on. No trains between Basingstoke and Weybridge which meant none from Farnborough, where I live. Oops! So we got the bus to Camberley. We did Primark first. It was hectic. Reminded me of why I hate shopping. We survived nonetheless. We went outside and there was a gymnastics display from a local dance school. They weren’t half bad. It reminded me of my dancing days. I was so flexible, and skinny lol

After Primark and the gymnastics show we headed for food. We settled on Pizza Express. Scarlett had her own little starter of Dough Balls with some cucumber and tomatoes on the side. She was dipping her balls in the garlic butter, copying me. Then she dipped her tomatoes. She doesn’t like them so she just licked the butter off lol

After pizza we got the bus to my nan’s. We had a cuppa and I showed my nan what I’d bought. Scarlett has learned to say “peace” but you can imagine what it sounds like. Nan then dropped us home. Scarlett and I jumped in the bath together. I stood up to wash my hair under the shower whilst she played in the draining bath water. She mostly just rubbed my foot with a flannel (helping me wash). I got out and then got her out. She was in bed by 8:30. So a later night than usual but it’s the weekend. I watched the finale of Stranger Things 2. I don’t know if there will be a season 3. I mean, there could be but I don’t know!

Sunday (today) she woke up at 7ish. Which would’ve been 8 had the clocks not gone back. So I can’t complain at all. She had a bottle then some breakfast. We watched some of Sharktail then she went for a nap. She woke up at 11am. I got her dressed then my mom’s friend (Scarlett’s godmother) picked us up and took us to Sainsbury’s so I could grab some stuff for work tomorrow. She dropped us at my nan’s when we were done as we were having dinner there.

We had roast beef. Scarlett ate a lot then we had ginger cake for pudding. She loved it. She had custard with hers. I don’t like custard. She tried to play with my cousin, who is almost 4 but she doesn’t seem to like Scarlett. She just ignored her when she tried to play with her. We stayed for a cuppa then we went home. We carried on watching Sharktail then I put the Bee Movie on. She fell off the sofa and kept rubbing her eyes so I took her up for a bath.

She’s been a bit of a nightmare this weekend. I feel like all I’ve done is tell her off, even shouted at her a few times. She just hasn’t listened to me all weekend. I was constantly telling her the same things to NOT do. And I don’t want our weekends to be like that given how little we see of each other in the week. And it made me feel a bit bad. Before bed she came and sat with me. She gave me a big cuddle and kisses. So I guess she doesn’t have any hard feelings about it. And her loving feelings towards me helped diminish some of my bad/guilty feelings. I love this wild crazy child of mine. She’s just pushing boundaries. It’s totally normal.

She went to bed at 7. I put some washing on and sorted myself some supper. I heard Stormzy was going to perform on X-factor so I turned it on. He appeared as the closing act. I legit sat through 2 hours of bullshit to see him lol was worth it. I love him!

I got into bed at 9. I’m just chatting on WhatsApp to my girls and playing my game.

Work tomorrow. Another week just signals another week closer to being the only database team member standing. I don’t think I can hack doing 3 people’s work. I need to find a new job. I’ve been looking for 11 months and no luck. It’s Christmas time now so everything online is temporary positions. Not ideal. So might have to give up and try again in the new year. Not where I thought I’d be at this point in the year.

TTFN x

A quiet weekend

Friday we stopped for a bite to eat on the way home as we had stopped not too far away at Tesco to stock up on some bare essentials. I also got Scarlett 6 pairs of pyjamas as her old ones are too short for her now, finally. We had some food and then we headed home. Scarlett went to bed at usual time. She was shattered after our long week away.

Saturday she didn’t wake until 9am. What a lovely lay-in. She got up, had a bottle, we watched some teletubbies and then she had breakfast. She was tired still so I put her back to bed at 10:30am. I had to wake her for swimming. We were late and then I discovered I had left my swimsuit at home. I told the swim teacher my predicament and explained that I was sorry but Scarlett would have to miss it this week. She said that if I didn’t mind, she would take her and swim with her. She said as we were down to half the class [usually there is 4 of us but today there was only 2 including Scarlett]. So Scarlett did her lesson with the teacher. After swimming we went home for lunch. She had her lunch then she went back down for a nap. She was still asleep at 3:45 when I left to go to the cinema. I had a hot dog and a slushie. I don’t usually have food but I was hungry. I watched the new “IT” movie. It wasn’t scary but very creepy. It was only down as a 15 so there was a bunch of “teenagers” in there and every time you saw his hand or reflection or something equally as non-scary you’d hear squeals. Like seriously? I enjoyed the movie and I think Bill Skarsgard did the role brilliantly. I know Tim Currie did the original Pennywise but you cannot compare the two. Bill brought something different to the character. It seems they are splitting the book between 2 movies instead of condensing it in to 1 movie, like the first movie was done. So I look forward to IT chapter 2. After the cinema I got the bus back to home. Scarlett was in bed but still awake. I popped up and said Hi to her and goodnight. She was so pleased to see me. She had a quick chat on FaceTime with Brett then I put her to bed properly.

Mom and I toasted her completion of her NVQ level 3 in Care. She started it when I was pregnant but so much personal stuff had come up and she had put it on the back burner. I am so proud of her because this year she worked her ass off to complete it. And it wasn’t easy as some of the physical attributes to the NVQ required my mom to be shadowed by her NVQ assessor, at work, doing stuff. But my mom’s work life has been really disruptive this year as she was made redundant and changed jobs twice since for various reasons. And she was in hospital last month. But she did it. So we toasted with some Martini Asti.

Sunday Scarlett woke up at 8ish. She had a bottle then some breakfast. We started watching Hotel Transylvania 2 together but she ditched me for a nap. That’s fine, I watched it by myself. I love that movie. She woke up at 1:30pm. I dressed her then mom and I took her to the park. We all needed the fresh air. We played for a bit but there was too many boisterous asshole kids pushing past her, and she banged her cheek. So we left the play area and wandered on the open field. I had brought her bubbles so she chased them lol we went home after and watched Shrek 4. Mom cooked some dinner at 5:30. Scarlett was bathed at 6 and in bed by 6:45. She had been whinging to go to bed since 4 lol it took a lot of energy to keep her up as long as I did.

Mom and I watched some tele. I tidied up the toys in the front room then I got in the shower. After I finished I came down to watch Victoria. I love it. Now it is finished I am in bed.

I am back at work tomorrow. I wonder what that will bring. I bet I have a bunch of emails and shit has changed. I have anxiety just thinking about it. But it feeds my kid. I forgot to say, I got a letter whilst away from my company saying I was getting a salary increased effective from this month. I have gained about £1300 a year. Not bad.

TTFN x

Goodbye Notgrove

Tuesday mom had to get he AA out to the car as the screw we noticed the day before, had caused the tyre to deflate overnight. The AA guy said he’d repair it enough for us to drive to the garage in the next village. So that’s what we did. We went to Bourton-on-the-water and the garage were really good. They fitted us in within 20 minutes and we just stuck the bill on my credit card. Once we finished we then headed to Cotswold Farm Park. We spend the afternoon there. We headed back to the pod as it was close by. We let Scarlett nap and then at 5ish we headed back to Cheltenham for dinner. We settled on pizza express. Scarlett ate quite a lot and she had a chocolate brownie for dessert (no cream, obviously).

Wednesday we settled on Sudeley castle. We were up and out by 10am. It was nice grounds and the castle was beautiful but so old. There was Tudor history which surprised me. I love Henry VIII so I was pleasantly surprised. I knew Katherine Parr’s tomb was in the church on the castle site but never expected to read stuff about Henry and they had extra information for his other wives too. We had a cup of tea in the castle cafe then we headed off. We had planned to do birdland after lunch but Scarlett was so grotty with teething we gave it a miss and went back to the pod so she could nap. When she was up we headed to Cheltenham for dinner. We went to the Wetherspoons this time. We all had hotdogs and then pudding.

Thursday, our last full day. We decided we didn’t fancy walking around in the rain at birdland so we went to Cheltenham for a wander around the shops. We had lunch. Then we went back to the pod. Scarlett had a nap then we decided what to have for dinner. We decided on harvester again as we had such a good meal on Monday. So we did that. We had dessert after. Once we ate we left to go to the pod. We packed whilst we had the tele on. The pod had a smartTV so what we were doing was watching everything on playback such as the itv player or bbc player. We watched emmerdale and coronation street. I spent over an hour convincing Scarlett to go to sleep. She just fights it lol eventually she gave in and I laid next to her. I fell asleep quite early I think.

Friday (today) we got up early. Packed everything in the car. Mom had a shower. Scarlett had a sink bath then I got her dressed. We had planned to grab breakfast out then go to Birdland. So that’s what we did. We had a McDonald’s breakfast then headed to Birdland. It was dry and out of the shade it was warm. We stayed for nearly 3 hours as there was lots to see and went through the Jurassic journey trail. Scarlett got tired and put herself back in the stroller towards the end. We stopped in the cafe for a cup of tea then we set off. We are currently travelling home. Can’t wait to sleep in my own bed. I love Scarlett but I don’t like co-sleeping with a toddler. She’s like a wriggling worm. She prefers sleeping alone too, that’s why she played up at bedtime every night. But it is what it is.

TTFN x

Glamping

Friday was 7 years since my Nan’s sister passed away.

Saturday we got up and went for breakfast at Whetherspoons then Scarlett had a swimming lesson. After my Dad picked us up and drove us to his house for the afternoon. He lives an hour away. We went for dinner and it was good to catch up. It was a flying visit as I couldn’t stay too late because of Scarlett. He drove us home at 7:30 and I got her in bed for 8:30. I finished watching season 2 of Bitten, in bed.

Sunday we went for dinner at the new pub near Morrisons called the Sarsen Stone. My meal was alright but I’ve had better. I finally packed for our holiday once scarlett had gone to bed. I hate leaving it so late. It makes me feel unprepared.

Monday (today) we got up and went for breakfast at Morrisons cafe. When we’d eaten we grabbed some last minute bits to take with us then we headed home so Scarlett could have a nap before we headed off. We loaded the car and we set off at 12:45. We stopped at services after 30 minutes so mom would wee and so I could sit in the back instead of the front. Ideally I wouldn’t sit in the back as it makes my motion sickness worse but Scarlett was being so grumpy and kept kicking the iPad holder so it was easier to sit next to her.

We arrived at 2:45 and luckily were able to go straight into the pod. Unfortunately for wifi didn’t appear to be working and we had no phone signals so we couldn’t even text to say we’d arrived etc. I managed to catch some 3G enough to send the holiday people an email. About 45 minutes later a guy turned up to look at it. He ended up replacing the wifi router with a different one and that worked just fine. We had wanted to google what pubs were nearby for dinner so we quickly did that. We set off at 5pm for the harvester in Cheltenham. We had a really good meal. We all had Buttermilk fried chicken. Scarlett ate so much and when we got back I expected her to go straight to sleep after her bath. Especially as she hadn’t slept since her morning nap. She was shattered. But no she wouldn’t. We both tried on and off between 8:30 and 10:30 when she finally crashed. We’re hoping it was just because was overexcited and overtired. Hopefully tomorrow is better.

We haven’t decided what we are doing tomorrow as we have a few things we want to but it’ll all depend on the weather.

I’m co-sleeping with Scarlett. We haven’t done that in a long time.

We had some sad news at work today. I’m on annual leave so officially I don’t know. But my work girls sent me a screenshot of our email. One of our engineers has passed away. I use to be his scheduler when I was a scheduler before I went on maternity. I actually know him. It’s sad to hear he’s no longer with us and has taken me by some surprise. I knew he’d been unwell in the last year or two. But didn’t expect this.

TTFN x

Touch down

We didn’t go to sleep until late. Scarlett must’ve sensed we were travelling as she wouldn’t go to sleep. Brett packed whilst I showered and she was in the travel cot so he could do it by himself without her interference. Then when he was done, I packed. And she was still going strong at half past midnight!!!Brett told me to wake him in the morning when we needed to leave. So I woke him up at 8am. Although it took him 15-20 minutes to actually get up. I got dressed, packed the few bits I had left because they were needed in the AM and then I woke Scarlett. I dressed her, gave her a bottle and off we went. We dumped the room keys on the reception desk and then left.We walked around the corner to the taxi rank and got a taxi to the airport. We checked in our luggage and then went through to the next part where we had our hand luggage checked. Once this was done we headed to a shop for drinks for the plane. We then went through passport control before heading to the gate.We boarded the plane at 11am and it set off at 11:25am. We touched down in London at 1:10pm. It took us ages to get through passport control. The line was crazy. By the time we got through, our baggage was already waiting. Brett’s suitcase was damaged. The wheel was hanging off. Obviously it got damaged enroute. He was fuming but what can he do?

We jumped on a free shuttle bus with my mom and her friend, to where they had left the car. We loaded up and set off. Scarlett was starving so we stopped at McDonald’s and grabbed some nuggets to tide her over for the journey home.

We went home and dumped our stuff. Scarlett had a little play and we told my mom about our holiday (even though I had spoke to her every day). We then headed to my nan’s house for dinner. We stayed there until my Nan got in (and had a cup of tea) then we went home. Scarlett went to bed and we watched a film. We watched Sherlock Holmes.

I am glad to be home. Italy was great but way too hot. We saw what we wanted to. I tried lots of foods. So did Scarlett. We had some good fun. Just a shame our apartments weren’t that great. The only one we loved was Verona!

TTFN x